By Harry Petsanis and Donna McCance Self-Regulation Self-regulation is a set of life skills used to develop your ability to manage and control your emotions, impulses, thoughts, and behavior in response to situations. There are different causes for people’s inability to self-regulate, such as medical conditions and lack of skills on how to manage and control emotions. Self-regulation is a learned behavior which children acquire from their environment and modeling of their ca

By Harry Petsanis and Donna McCance "The minute you start to prioritize yourself is the minute you’ll speak directly, confidently, honestly, and in a manner that’s truly reflective of how you think and feel. It will also be the minute you go from passive-aggressive to being authentic." -Harry Petsanis Passive-Aggressive Behavior Defined Passive-aggressive behavior is defined as a pattern of negative, passively hostile behavior displayed by people who are uncomfortable with d

By Harry Petsanis and Donna McCance By Harry Petsanis and Donna McCance Gaslighting The term "gaslighting" came from the play Gaslight (1938), which resulted in feature films in 1940 and 1944. It is a story about an anxious wife whose overbearing, deceitful husband tried to make her think she was going insane. He would do things to torment her, one of which was to manipulate the dimness of the gas lights in the house, and when she questioned it, he tried to convince her she

By Harry Petsanis and Donna McCance Accountability Accepting and following through on responsibilities and accounting for your actions is accountability. When you are held accountable for something, you are expected to justify your actions based on your decisions, whether to yourself or someone else. External accountability may be required of you for various reasons, such as with your job, whereby you are held accountable to others, and internal accountability comes from hold

By Harry Petsanis and Donna McCance “Self-confidence is something that you develop from within. It’s the belief in yourself regardless of whether anyone else believes in you or not. It is a trait we develop over time. Like any other skill or characteristic, we have to hone it, sharpen it, and craft it.” - Harry Petsanis In order to develop a new mindset, it’s important to reflect and understand the flawed foundation that exists behind your self-confidence so that you can d