By Harry Petsanis and Donna McCance
“Life changes when…
Your courage overcomes your fears.
Your actions overcome your words.
Your accountability overcomes your excuses.
Your strength overcomes your pain.
Your individuality overcomes your conformity."
The reason our lives don’t change is because our mindset and perspective don’t change. Our focus is a problem, compounded by the fact that we have a hard time concentrating, and when we do, it’s often on the wrong things. We focus on fear instead of being courageous. We focus on defeat instead of victory. We focus on pain instead of strength. We’re consumed with conforming, instead of focusing on authenticity. We spend our lives talking, instead of concentrating on doing. We spend more time making excuses than we do owning our poor choices.
Most people always choose the easiest path. That’s why people talk instead of act. It’s why they complain instead of resolve. It’s why they live a life that’s unfulfilled. Complaining has become a national pastime. If people took one tenth of the energy and time into resolving their issues than they do into complaining about them, they wouldn’t have any issues to complain about.
No matter what someone says, how unhappy they appear to be, and how often they convey their misery, they rarely are willing to put in the effort and time into doing anything about it.
People want to do two things, give the appearance that they want to change, to ease their conscience, while at the same time catering to their nature of being lazy and unaccountable, which is why they never change.
We’ve become a society that doesn’t just expect everyone to do everything for us, we expect them to motivate us, inspire us, and develop our mindset. This is not only dangerous, it’s a fallacy. Success begins and ends with you. Your words, actions, motivation, and inspiration can never come from an external source.
We allow our fears to determine our decisions, becoming our excuse to never change. Part of that is based in fear, but part of it is based in choice. People will tell you they’re afraid of failing, but what they’re often afraid of is success. Success requires effort, hard work, determination, focus, the refusal to quit, the refusal to make excuses, and the ability to persevere and overcome every obstacle. Those are things that most people are not willing to do. What they’re willing to do is look for excuses to quit and excuses to not even try because they’re afraid. They’re afraid that putting their full effort into something will not get the results they want, and they won’t be able to blame someone else when they do fall short. Most people quit at the first sign of rejection. Subconsciously most of those people want to be rejected, so it can become their convenient excuse to quit.
The greatest promises you can keep are the promises you make to yourself. When you start honoring your commitments and obligations to yourself,
everything else falls into place.
Everything in life is a mindset. You can talk yourself into anything. You can talk yourself out of anything. Everyday people say “I can’t do this. I wish I could do that. I want to do this,” instead of saying ‘I'm going to do this. I’ve done this.” If you want to achieve anything in life, it starts first with your mindset. You’re never going to achieve anything until you believe. If you believe you’re capable of doing anything, you’ll do anything.
Change requires being direct and honest with yourself and being willing to take action.
Change requires being direct and honest with others.
Change requires accepting when others are being direct and honest with you.
About the Authors
Harry Petsanis is a philosopher of human nature, mindset specialist, and lifelong fitness and wellness specialist. He is a writer and author, with three published books: “The Truth is A Lie,” “The Logical Path To Life,” and "Knowing Me from A to Z, A Child's Mindset," which he co-authored with Donna McCance, M.Ed.. Harry has a Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism. He has an intense passion for psychology and the human condition.
Donna McCance, M.Ed. is a business administrator, writer, author, licensed teacher and principal/vice principal with over 20 years experience teaching in elementary education and educational leadership. She has a Masters in Education, Masters in Human Services Management, Bachelors in Business Administration and Associates in Business Administration.
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