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Mindset Reality Check on Personal Growth

Personal Growth

By Harry Petsanis and Donna McCance

Personal growth is the ability to learn from experiences so that you can improve yourself through your behaviors and habits. It is a process of developing emotional intelligence and maturing through your actions and reactions through self-awareness.

Most people don’t want to develop personal growth because they don’t want to improve themselves. That would require self-evaluation and accepting that they need to change.

The reason growth is hard for most people is because instead of constantly moving forward toward improved behaviors and new habits, they keep going back to destructive behaviors and unhealthy habits. It’s easier.

To truly grow, you have to fight your past, history, biases, and everything that has conditioned you to become compliant, apathetic, complacent, and inauthentic. You need to change your habits to find your true nature that has been forced into submission. You need to fight your own unhealthy thought processes to move forward instead of going back.

People are not committed to resolving the issues they have that bleed into everything they do. They might be committed temporarily, but it doesn’t become a new habit because they quickly revert back to what they think is the easy way out, continuing their destructive cycle of bad habits.

Lack of growth comes from refusing to hold yourself accountable. Blaming others is an attempt to deflect responsibility for your own actions, or inactions. You cannot hold other people accountable for your lack of growth because it is not their responsibility. Growth comes from within you, and so does lack of growth.

If you want to grow, you need to hold yourself accountable for everything you do. You cannot be open to growth if you’re not open to change. One cannot occur without the other.

To be open to change, you have got to be open to acknowledging that the way you’re doing things is not working, and it’s your responsibility. Once you are willing to acknowledge this, you can then take steps to change.

The first step toward growth is breaking habits. You need to set goals and have every action align with your goals. It requires honesty and strength of mind, which include self-awareness, commitment, consistency, self-discipline, resilience, accountability, and persistence.

We will leave you with this, which is the most important point. Growth requires change. Change requires hard work. If you truly want to grow and improve your life, you must go into it knowing and accepting that you must strengthen your mind. You must be willing to push through and not fall back onto your old habits. It requires incredible strength, consistency, and diligence to create new habits, which will lead to a new life.

About the Authors

Harry Petsanis is a philosopher of human nature, mindset specialist, and lifelong fitness and wellness advisor. He is a writer and author, with three published books: “The Truth is A Lie,” “The Logical Path To Life,” and "Knowing Me from A to Z, A Child's Mindset," which he co-authored with Donna McCance, M.Ed.. Harry has a Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism. He has an intense passion for psychology and the human condition.

Donna McCance, M.Ed. is a business administrator, writer, author, licensed teacher and principal/vice principal with over 20 years experience teaching in elementary education and educational leadership. She has a Masters in Education, Masters in Human Services Management, Bachelors in Business Administration and Associates in Business Administration.

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The Truth is A Lie" and "The Logical Path To Life"

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